April 10, 2015
“Here’s my advice ~ have a little faith, and if that doesn’t work, have a lot of mimosas.”
Well, well, well, what do we have here? Another birthday. Another post. Another year of mistakes I’ve made, but better yet, another year of lessons I’ve learned and good decisions I have made. If I’m not mistaken, about a year ago I published one of my first posts on Growing Champagnes sharing 20 lessons I learned from being 20. Now, with my 21st year leaving me behind for bigger and better things, I thought why not keep up with tradition and share 21 things I discovered at 21.
1. Wash your dishes as you cook. Done with that measuring cup forever? Wash it. Instead of piling up a million dirty dishes for you to cry about after, clean up as you go and thank yourself later.
2. Microwaved nachos for breakfast, lunch, and dinner shouldn’t be looked at as a bad thing but more as a very acceptable way to survive.
3. Always have at least $20 in cash on you. You never know when you might breakdown somewhere and need cash. You never know if a bar or a restaurant you end up at will be cash only, and it’s always easier to pay a bill in cash regardless. Sometimes it’s cheaper to buy gas with cash too. And you never know when you might run into that adorable little girl scout selling those Samoas…you won’t be able to fight it…you know you won’t be able to fight it…and you’ll have cash :’)
4. Jimmy Fallon’s Ben & Jerry’s ice cream flavor The Tonight Dough is without a doubt the best ice cream to ever exist. Can’t wait for Free Cone Day btw. Can’t friggin wait.
5. It’s 2015. Girls are still the absolute worst. Obviously.
6. You can buy as many bras and cute pairs of underwear you want and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
7. Never ever forget your friends, your family, and your interests. Remind your friends and family how much they mean to you everyday, even if it’s just with a funny picture or a “thinking of you, have a good day!” text in the morning. And remind yourself everyday about what you love and why you love it. Never let somebody else change your mind about something you’re passionate about.
8. Suck it up and get into a routine. Wake up earlier, eat better, and work out. You’ll feel better, you’ll look better, and you’ll be able to take on the world.
9. You’re never too old to learn something from life and you’re never too old to learn something new from Boy Meets World. So go re-watch every episode. Because just like Cory Matthews, you never really stop meeting the world, and I think that’s the point of living.
10. If you’re dying to be somewhere warm with salty air and the smell of bananas, buy a ticket and get yourself there. Because now’s the time to do that. Now’s the time to spend money you don’t have, to explore new places spontaneously, and to get a tan in the middle of March. It will do good things to you. Everyone needs an ocean and sunshine cleanse every once in a while.
11. Never give up on people you believe in.
12. People leave and you’ll survive. I’m looking at you Zayn baby.
13. Having responsibilities is really, wait for it, hard. And sometimes the people you look up to and who are supposed to help you don’t. And then shit hits the fan. And you feel helpless and like a failure. But everyone makes mistakes, and as long as you always do the best you can do and be the best you can be, there is nothing to blame yourself for. Always think to yourself, “is this even something worth worrying about?” “will this affect me in the big picture of my life?” “will I even remember this in 6 months?” Hey. The answer 99% of the time is “probably not”, so don’t stress.
14. Yes you’re 21 and yes you’re still young. That’s so important. You have so much time. Of course people are going to ask you about your future, it’s their job. But the thing is, you still don’t need to know yet. You’re smart and you have a lot more going for you than you think. Explore. Now’s the time to really find out what you like, and more importantly, what you don’t. And it may shock you, but it’s okay to change your mind. Life would be boring if you didn’t and if you knew what you were doing all the time.
15. People will always spill drinks on you and it will always be cold. But you will dry eventually.
16. Talk. Don’t text. Get your true feelings out there if someone needs to hear them. Things can be misinterpreted through text messages and it’s not worth causing problems that don’t need to be caused when you can just have an adult conversation. It’s so important to understand how people truly feel by the way they speak and by the way they look at you when they do.
17. It’s alright to be sad, but always try your hardest to not forget what makes you happy.
18. It doesn’t matter if you’re in your twenties, people will still act like they are in high school. They will indirect tweet you, they will say things terrible things behind your back, and they will judge your actions. And although it sucks, especially if you’re like me, someone who takes things to heart and worries that people actually think those things about you, sometimes it’s better to not say anything. Don’t add unnecessary flame to the fire. It makes you look just as bad and they win. There will always be people who want to bring you down but it’s important not to let their words alter the way you think about yourself.
19. You can say no. Of course not to professionals, to your boss, or to your mom, but if you’re tired and would rather sit on your couch and eat mozzarella sticks than go out then do it. I guarantee you won’t miss out simply by saying no. Go out next week. Or the week after that. It will be the same experience.
20. Sometimes you need to step out of your boundaries and travel on your own to a place that has more to offer you. If you live somewhere that doesn’t have something you’re interested in, the right people, the right job, the right opportunities, go somewhere that does. Not to mention that traveling alone, being totally responsible for yourself, proves just how capable you really are.
21. Amazing things take time. They really do. And they will last if you want them to.